Greetings to the Dysfunctional Playhouse. I hope you are ready to let your hair down and get real. It should be interesting at the very least and quite possibly entertaining and helpful.
I am an alcoholic, but that really is just a symptom of my real problem. I have the disease of dis-ease. I am restless by nature. I am never satisfied with my life. I am always looking for something that seems to be just out of my reach. It is, needless to say, exhausting being me.
I come from a dysfunctional family. A loving family for sure but dysfunctional nonetheless.
But I have learned to live with my alcoholism and actually thrive in this lifestyle. I have learned to function as an adult despite the behavior I saw modeled as a child.
You see, I have a choice. I can allow my past to dictate my actions and define who I am, or I can use my past as a learning tool so that I can improve as a human being. I like to say I am a spiritual being having a human experience. I am constantly learning about myself and in this case, knowledge is most definitely power.
I suspect that there are very few “normal” people. We all seem to have our ghosts. We all seem to have defining moments in our lives that have shaped us, for better or for worse….and we all have the choice to change things for the better.
I wrote an article on this topic and posted it today on HubPages. You can find it here if you are interested. http://billybuc.hubpages.com/hub/The-Dysfunctional-Family
I hope you enjoy this journey. I think there will be a little something in this for all of you dysfunctional folks. You are welcome here. You are safe here. This is home.
Bill
The Dysfunctional Playhouse 
Bill: Let’s all gather at your playhouse and perhaps we can share a few positive things or two to help each of us! I am so glad for your progress! I come from an unloving dysfunctional family and the roots go so deep at this point, I can only take care of myself right now. My family’s dysfunctions are the lies, secrets and manipulations that have gone on forever. I became manipulative only because I didn’t know anything differently as that is the behavior I witnessed growing up. To me it was life normal. Life is difficult enough without dysfunction in it. So I will be getting off here are the dysfunction junction to ‘play’ with all of you. Oh, and I have learned how not to be manipulative now.
Suzette, thanks for being the first to comment….man alive, our families can do some damage, can’t they? This will be a positive blog…this is about moving forward. I have wallowed in crap for far too long to spend much time writing about it. 🙂
So glad to be one of the first to comment. What a great idea Billy and I shall most certainly be following you on here. As for dysfunctional families ;well the one I grew up in must have taken the first prize by miles but that’s in the past ;I cannot change it and it is what has made me into who I am today !! Some good and some bad there I suppose ha ha ha ; don’t reply here my friend!!!
I am sort of where I want to be today but like you I am always reaching out for another foothold not too far out of reach but will be mine one day !!!One of my mottos today is get the better of abusers from your past ( dead or alive) is to be happy in your own life .Looking forward to your journey on here Billy.
Lots of love from my little corner of Wales.
Eddy.
Eddy, thanks for stopping by our playhouse. I love my life; you know that. This is a celebration place for those of us who have found the light and placed the darkness in the storage shed where it belongs. It is also a place for people who need to discuss this stuff, so they will know it is alright and there are people who understand. I hope you enjoy your time here; I’ll be serving tea with each visit. 🙂
love,
billy
Wonderful and what a great venture for this New year.
Bill, I welcome a seat in your playhouse. I’ve come to realize I am the dysfunctional one in my family. I’ve had an aha moment (again) and pray I have the strength to become a better person by kicking my dysfunctional/destructive behavior out the door. It’s nice to know I have a safe place to come to when I need help.
Sha, you will always have a seat in my playhouse…take the bean bag over there and get comfortable….and realization of a problem is a giant step in the right direction. 🙂
I love it Bill and hope that you will consider me as a member in good standing in your playhouse. My own adult children have always said our family but the fun back in dysfunctional. You already know some of my biases given a few rants on FB. I am though trying to cut back from that and hope to keep things more positive and hopefully constructive in the future. I do look forward to this new blog and hope to add my own 2 cents whenever possible. As always take care my friend.
As you may have noticed my computer still makes errors in spelling. That should have read put the fun back in dysfunctional. I think I need a proofreader to go over my stuff before sending it out into cyber space. Do you know anyone who could help with such a problem??……………..
Larry, I know I can always count on your two cents worth. LOL Glad to have you here my friend. I look forward to 2014.
I could do it Larry but that would take some of the fun out of your comments. 🙂
Bill, pretty much will follow you wherever you write and hope you will have me here to join, too! Seriously, wonderful new blog and wish you tons of success with it now! 🙂
Janine, I always know you will be here. Grab a chair; refreshments will be served soon. 🙂 Thank you as always my friend.
Bill, I suspect you are correct that there are very few “normal” people out there. So, I too will join your invitation to join you are the playhouse!
You are always welcome, Audrey! Thanks for joining us.
I too come from a dysfunctional family, not that they will admit it though. I had to cut all ties with my step-monster and since doing so my life has improved drastically. It wasn’t an easy thing to do but I think it was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made in my life. I look forward to following your new blog and wish you much success.
Susan, thank you for sharing your experience. No, it certainly is not an easy thing to do…very painful in fact…but often necessary.
Looks like a great blog Bill. I, too, come from dysfunction, but I have learned to change and adapt. Thanks, I will attempt to read your posts.
Greg, I greatly appreciate you taking the time to visit this blog. Whenever you have the time there will be a seat waiting for you. Thank you!