Addiction: A Breeding Ground For Dysfunction

DSCN0799Happy Friday!  There is nothing dysfunctional about Fridays now is there?  Grab a seat and get comfortable. Today we’re going to talk about a subject I know a great deal about.

How many of you have an alcoholic or drug addict in your family?  If the statistics are true about addiction, and I believe them to be greatly understated, then quite a few of you have a family member who is battling addiction at this time.

Talk about a recipe for dysfunction.  Take one alcoholic/addict, put them in an otherwise normal family, and sooner rather than later you will have dysfunction running rampant throughout that family.  Addiction takes no prisoners.  Addiction affects every member of a family.  Addiction is not only a slow death for the addict but also for those who love the addict.

If you have a family member who is an alcoholic or drug addict, you have several options and none of them are easy.  You can choose to ignore it and hope it goes away….which I promise you it won’t.  You can choose to become an enabler and make excuses for the addict, lie for the addict, and generally make it easy for the addict.  You can intervene, set boundaries, and make it clear to the addict that you will not allow the addiction to further infest the rest of the family.  Or you can demand that they get help either through in-patient or out-patient treatment and start on the road to recovery.

There is very little that can be done to help someone who is addicted if they do not want help, so your number one priority is to take care of yourself and your other loved ones.  This is much easier to say than do, but for the survival and mental health of the others it is necessary.

The alcoholic/addict who chooses to continue feeding their addiction and not get help has made their choice.  Now you have to make yours.

Have a great weekend!  If any of you have an addict in your immediately family, and you want to talk to someone with seven years of sobriety who understands this disease quite well, then email me at and I’ll be glad to talk with you.



About Billybuc

A simple man who has found happiness as a functioning dysfunctional.
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10 Responses to Addiction: A Breeding Ground For Dysfunction

  1. I had an uncle who had problems with addiction. Sadly, he never could get over his addictions and past away from a massive heart attack (caused by all of his past indiscretions) over 10 years ago. I wish I could say that he did get the help he needed and was able to overcome it, but unfortunately just never happened. Thanks for being so candid and honest as always with this topic and Happy Friday once again!

  2. Billybuc says:

    Secrets will kill, Janine. My only chance at a good life is to be open and honest….and who knows, I might just help someone along the way. 🙂 Happy Weekend my friend and thank you.

  3. It’s all about choice, Bill. As you say, until the addict is ready to really do something about it, the rest of the family needs to put themselves first in order to stay out of the line of fire.

  4. Lea Tartanian says:

    Billybuc; Both my biological parents were alcoholics, and two of my sister’s husbands. My granddaughter got engaged to a drug addict, had his baby, and he is currently in rehab.
    So I get it. Everything you said above is 100 percent true. Thank you for posting this, and for your extreme encouragement to those who may need to talk to someone. God has used your past to help people in the future. God bless.

  5. Happy Friday evening,night my friend. Though never been personally “possessed ” by any king of addiction – have been closely connected by participation in process assisting help to those who were in need of freedom from it. It is one of the most powerful spiritual stronghold dominating the body ,soul- spirit-man yielded by a “spiritually dead ” – person. Might not be said/ explained in most correct English my short contribution to your article , however those who have been freed told me that they ” came alive ” – with additional evidence –a way of expressing isn’t common on this pages . ( Hope this won’t cause termination of my presence here.)
    Pax vobiscum.

  6. Thank you Bill. Thank you very much my friend . . .Thank you

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