How many of you have an alcoholic or drug addict in your family? If the statistics are true about addiction, and I believe them to be greatly understated, then quite a few of you have a family member who is battling addiction at this time.
Talk about a recipe for dysfunction. Take one alcoholic/addict, put them in an otherwise normal family, and sooner rather than later you will have dysfunction running rampant throughout that family. Addiction takes no prisoners. Addiction affects every member of a family. Addiction is not only a slow death for the addict but also for those who love the addict.
If you have a family member who is an alcoholic or drug addict, you have several options and none of them are easy. You can choose to ignore it and hope it goes away….which I promise you it won’t. You can choose to become an enabler and make excuses for the addict, lie for the addict, and generally make it easy for the addict. You can intervene, set boundaries, and make it clear to the addict that you will not allow the addiction to further infest the rest of the family. Or you can demand that they get help either through in-patient or out-patient treatment and start on the road to recovery.
There is very little that can be done to help someone who is addicted if they do not want help, so your number one priority is to take care of yourself and your other loved ones. This is much easier to say than do, but for the survival and mental health of the others it is necessary.
The alcoholic/addict who chooses to continue feeding their addiction and not get help has made their choice. Now you have to make yours.
Have a great weekend! If any of you have an addict in your immediately family, and you want to talk to someone with seven years of sobriety who understands this disease quite well, then email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and I’ll be glad to talk with you.