Today let’s talk about dealing with a dysfunctional person. I’m going to guess that all of you know one or two because, quite frankly, they are everywhere. There is no escaping them whether they be in your immediate family, or in your circle of friends, or at the work place.
Let me start by saying I have compassion. I think anyone who knows me knows that I have empathy for others and I truly do care about members of my own species. Having said that….here comes the infamous “but”…..because I have compassion for a dysfunctional person does not mean I am willing to let them run over me like a road-grader.
The first step in dealing with a dysfunctional is realizing that you are not going to change them. Dysfunction is deep-seated, and nothing you say, nothing you do and nothing you feel is going to make that dysfunction go away. Accept that fact and then you can deal rationally with the irrational behavior you are facing.
Secondly, set boundaries for what you are and what you are not willing to do or accept. Your number one priority is to yourself.
Third, keep in mind that whatever crisis they may have manufactured is only a crisis to them; you do not have any ownership in it.
Fourth, be very aware that if you help a dysfunctional once they will expect you to help them again and again…and that is called enabling.
Finally, remember that their dysfunction is not your fault, so accept no blame for it.
If you can manage to keep those things in mind you just might have an easier time dealing with these emotionally and psychologically damaged individuals.
And with that I wish you a very happy and productive day filled with love.