A Dysfunctional Family The Size Of The United States


014I was thinking of the United States of America and how it resembles, in so many ways, one large dysfunctional family.  In fact, I’ll probably write an article about it since I don’t want to ramble on too long in this post.

Think about it, though:  the definition of a dysfunctional family is one “where conflict, misbehaviour and abuse of varying degrees and types takes place on a continuing basis but because the children are usually born into it, they live with the conception that they are a normal family. Family dysfunction can be any circumstance that interferes with healthy family functioning. Dysfunctional family members have common symptoms and behavior patterns as a result of their common experiences within the family structure.”

Give that definition some thought and tell me if you do agree or don’t agree that the United States fits that definition.

I keep thinking of the phrase “united we stand.”  When was the last time this country was really united on an issue?  Probably 9/11, right?  Before that I would have to say right after the end of World War 2.  We certainly were not united for the Korean War, and without a doubt there was no unity during Vietnam.  Any other conflict since then has had major opposition.  Then we have the societal issues….race, religion, gun control, abortion….no unity there.

We snipe at each other constantly.  Political parties spend so much time attacking each other that they have very little time attacking issues that this nation faces, issues that are crippling us.  Instead of compromising and making headway on issues we yell and shout, an exclusionary approach that is doomed for failure.  Our leaders do it, we do it, and our children will do it in the future.

I wonder when we will learn from the past?  Hopefully before it is too late.



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A simple man who has found happiness as a functioning dysfunctional.
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10 Responses to A Dysfunctional Family The Size Of The United States

  1. I too hope we learn before it is too late and try to hope positively on this one even after knowing all that the past has brought us. Happy Monday Bill and keep on smiling (only 4 days until Friday now!).

  2. Billybuc says:

    LOL..only 4 days left, Janine! Thanks for the laugh.

  3. Bill, I’d love to read your article about this issue. I’m sure you’ll have no problem coming up with the 1,250 word count! Yes, our country is extremely dysfunctional.Will it ever become united again? I don’t know. I think so much crap is going on now, and has gone on, that it’s become status quot and people don’t even realize how f#@cked up our country really is.

    • Billybuc says:

      Sha, they either don’t realize it or are in denial. I’ll get around to that article in a week or two; I’m working my way down the ever-growing list. 🙂 Thanks dear friend.

  4. Donna Bryan says:

    I agree whole-heartedly, Bill, the United States is truly dysfunctional. I suppose that until people can manage to work out the dysfunctions within their own homes and communities, there isn’t much hope for fixing the dysfunctional “qualities” of the country. However, even in the worst dysfunctional family, if an outsider messes with one, they mess with them all, i.e. Sept 11th. In that respect I am more than happy to be a card-carrying member of these dysfunctional United States of America. Mark me down for the family reunion — I believe it’s scheduled for July 4th! I can’t wait to see the most dysfunctional member of the family tree there, Uncle Sam! 🙂

  5. Bill my dear friend,
    as long as there is hope not destroyed and sound mind of people who won’t bend to lies and deception coming from any type of leaders, political, religious and other kind- is not too late. Many teachable are willing to learn– are they fed with true ” feed ‘? ( My mind is wondering …) Truth is the only thing to make the people free even from disfunction …

    • Billybuc says:

      Michael my friend, your words are filled with truth and hope, and what better way to end my day. Thank you for your compassion and your friendship.

      blessings always


  6. Jamheart says:

    A Dysfunctional home/country does not happen in a vacuum. We have all participated in its making to some degree. The only hope is for every one currently participating in dysfunctional behavior to make it a goal and take action to stop hurting others in their thought, speech and actions. Everything from our Presidential Election Process to our television and news is loaded with hate talk. Mean behavior is on display and consumed as entertainment. We are being abused by the ugliness of it all. Who can stop the TV shows, that portray hate talk, gun violence, physical assault, degrading, gang-like, us-vs-them thinking, as NORMAL? Children/citizens grow up consuming this violent thought pattern.

    It is time for everyone to try and live each day in Love and get a counselor if needed. Treat the micro to treat the macro.

    • Billybuc says:

      Jamheart, I could not agree more. You summed up our current situation perfectly and I, for one, plan on being a part of the solution rather than the problem. Thank you!

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