Is Pornography Dysfunctional?

cropped-being-silly.jpgHappy Wednesday to you all!

I’m running late today (Tuesday) and I’m not sure how much more I have in the tank, but I wanted to at least touch on the subject of pornography.

The City of Olympia, where I live, is currently reviewing an application for the first strip club ever in the city limits.  For those of you who live in large cities you may find that amazing; it is, after all, the year 2014, and strip clubs have been around a long time…but for our little city of 43,000 this is a first….nude women dancing for money.

I would be surprised if the application is accepted, but I have been surprised in the past.  Anyway, this got me thinking about the pornography industry.  The latest figures show that the porno industry rakes in about one billion dollars per year in the United States, so this is by no means a small, meaningless industry.  Worldwide there are no estimates; it seems to be hard for experts to put an actual dollar figure on the porn industry around the globe, mainly because much of it is underground and it is just too big.

For whatever reason, sex trafficking is not included in any discussion about pornography.

I’ll pose this question to you:  is pornography a sign of dysfunction?  It’s a tough question in a lot of ways.  Playboy once was considered pornography but no longer.  What qualifies as porn and what does not?  And what does it say about the people who spent over a billion dollars last year purchasing porn?

I find something terribly sleazy about pornography, and I also find it to be terribly sad….but that’s just me.  What do you think of it?

Have a great day and thanks in advance for your comments.



About Billybuc

A simple man who has found happiness as a functioning dysfunctional.
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17 Responses to Is Pornography Dysfunctional?

  1. I am not even sure myself, but will say that I am not one for Pornography at all, so I truly don’t get those who are indeed included to read or view it. But this is just me and would love to hear what others have to say and weigh in on this. Have a great day now though Bill again. 🙂

  2. TLPoague says:

    I think it is a dysfunction because it can lead to adultery. How can we expect our children to stay faithful if we, ourselves, are looking at naked people?

  3. Porn is disturbing to me on so many levels. First, think about supply and demand. Someone is digging it because there’s billions of dollars being made. Porn is a consumable industry and there is lots of consumption going on.

    For the ladies I think it’s sad…to me I just do not see how it doesn’t feel like degradation. I’m not blasting anyone but I think girls fool themselves into thinking it’s ok…when they don’t feel ok with it.

  4. linda sorrells says:

    My ex was addicted to porn. I know first hand that it does indeed impact relationships, in my case I felt as if he was being unfaithful in our relationship.Especially after confronting him and he began trying to hide it. It made me feel very insecure and not “good enough”. In the end, pornography played a major roll in our divorce.

    • Billybuc says:

      Linda, how nice to see you here and commenting. Thanks for sharing a painful experience with us. I think it is important that people speak out about such things so others know that their thoughts are not odd or unreasonable. Yes, I can see how you would feel cheated on….great comment my friend.

  5. I, myself don’t like porn. I don’t watch it have never liked it when a boyfriend frequented strip clubs. I took it as an insult. You wanna see a naked woman dance? Hello! I’m right here! And you (the boyfriend at the time) can actually have me – no wishful thinking.

    I have a cousin who recently divorced her husband of thirty some-odd years because she discovered he’s addicted to porn and S and M. You’d never know it to talk to him. He’s good looking, intelligent, they had a successful business together, raised 2 children and have grand children. She wants me to help her write a book about it, but I don’t feel comfortable getting into their private lives and especially his addiction. She says he’s done some pretty twisted things. Even frequents underground S and M clubs. Too creepy for me!

    • Billybuc says:

      Me too, Sha! I simply don’t understand it. I’m sure there are those who disagree with me, but if porn is used as a substitute for something that should be found in a relationship or marriage, then I say it is dysfunctional. Thanks for your thoughts….maybe one day you’ll feel comfortable writing that book for your friend.

      • Bill, she’s my cousin. I wouldn’t feel comfortable with her telling me all the things her husband has done. Then again, it’s probably a story that needs to be told. I’m sure she’s not the only one who discovered her husband was not the person she thought he was.

  6. Heehee . . . you said “hard for experts”.

    Sorry ’bout that.

    When I was a church-going girl (HEY, STOP LAUGHING), I knew of two pastors (two different churches) and a person on staff who were addicted to pornography. And those were the ones who admitted it. I think it’s pertinent that they were respected people in conservative churches because sexuality is so repressed in religion. I don’t think it’s a coincidence.

    I think it’s safe to say that anything you allow to ruin your marriage or become an obsession is dysfunctional.

    • Billybuc says:

      Leave it to you, Lizzy, to pick up on the “hard for experts” line. LOL As for repression, I really do believe you are right about that. No coincidence at all.

      Thank you my dear; take care of those two girls.

  7. Alexandra says:

    I’ve always liked the phrase “pornography is a question of geography” and I pretty much stand by it. We do lots of things here as normal people that in other parts of the world are considered shocking and – yes – pornographic. Whatever any society decides is taboo is generally headed for the pornography pile. Sex is not pornographic. Expressions of sexuality, no matter how different from our own, are not pornographic. Exploitation of it is my definition for it – kind of like the old circus freak shows.

  8. Dee says:

    I just learned of a family today that is facing divorce due to the husband’s addiction to prorn. Also learned that a former student was fired from a job because he was found surfing porn sites while on the job. He is addicted to it. Does it cause problems? Yes, and it is a sign of dysfunction. Bill, you are a most admirable man for taking a stand on this issue.

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