The Dysfunction of Divorce

cropped-being-silly.jpgAnd a very Happy Tuesday to you all!  Are you ready to delve into the world of dysfunctional?

Oh heck, let’s talk about divorce today.

The last time I checked, the divorce rate in the United States was hovering around 50% and it has been for years.  I find that amazing and yes, totally understandable.

Is there something going on the past decade or so that leads to this? Is there some new factor that weighs heavily on married couples today that didn’t say, fifty years ago?

I don’t have simple answers to complicated questions, and those are complicated questions indeed.  Marriage is hard.  Period!  Once the bloom is off the rose and two people get down to the daily grind of living together, problems arise, and it is how we deal with those problems that spells success or doom for a marriage.  Both members of the marriage union bring baggage.  Both bring a set of pre-conceived beliefs based on how they were raised and how they view the world and life.  Finding common ground so both sets of beliefs can flourish is a seriously difficult task, one that, quite frankly, many people are not prepared for or willing to undertake.

In a very real sense, divorce is the natural outcome of a dysfunctional partnership.  Finding a way to make it functional is the key, and if there is no willingness to make that happen then it is only a matter of time before the one becomes two again.

Bill

 

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A simple man who has found happiness as a functioning dysfunctional.
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8 Responses to The Dysfunction of Divorce

  1. Bill, you said a mouthful here and will tell you that I was taught that when you marry it is for life pretty much. I get there are special circumstances at times, but I, for one, truly do believe in the fact that my vows that I said on that day almost 8 years ago meant everything to me and still do. So, I might very well be in the minority on this, but I am honestly happy I am and even though my husband and I are two different people and we have our moments just like everyone else, that we are in it for the long haul. Thank you for sharing your opinion on this and hoping you are having a good day so far again 🙂

    • Billybuc says:

      Janine, thank you for sharing those thoughts. Now, if we could only clone you about 100 million times. 🙂 Seriously, I love the message and I admire you.

  2. I’m in the 50% of failed marriages bracket. I’ve had two dysfunctional relationships which led to two functional divorces. 🙂

  3. TLPoague says:

    I have seen many dysfunctional marriages and dysfunctional divorces. So far I have fallen in the lucky category. I have been married for 20+ years. It has been a hard road but we have made it work for us and we are happy.

    • Billybuc says:

      TL, you raise a valid point…the dysfunctional marriage that somehow holds together…not sure if that is bad or good. 🙂 Thanks and congratulations on making it work.

  4. randee says:

    Bill, yes, something drastic has changed in the last 50 years. Women can now support themselves and thus they have choices. I am not against divorce. I am against dysfunction and nonsense. Sometimes it makes sense to get divorced and I would guess it makes sense more than 50% of the time.

    • Billybuc says:

      Oh yes, Randee, I have nothing against divorce either. Makes more sense to me than living in constant unhappiness. Thanks for the visit and enjoy your weekend.

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